By: Wet “Nation Cutie” Cates
We’re residing within the age of the Sassy Apocalypse. Sure, you learn that proper — a world the place males are buying and selling of their conventional masculinity for a comfortable, cuddly model of femininity. And I’m not simply speaking about carrying nail polish or placing on a silk gown in your late-night Zoom name. This shift goes deeper. It’s a cultural reckoning that’s altering the way in which males court docket, love, and even take into consideration their place in a relationship.
However maintain on, earlier than you ship me hate mail, let’s be clear. This isn’t an assault on the comfortable, emotionally in-touch man. Removed from it. It’s a commentary on the way in which conventional gender roles are blurring and whether or not males, as a complete, are doing sufficient to remain indispensable in an more and more unbiased world.
For these of you who’re simply now waking up out of your social media hiatus, let me provide you with a fast rundown on the time period “Sassy Apocalypse.” In keeping with the City Dictionary (that trusty millennial bible), it’s outlined as:
“The chaotic and infrequently comedic breakdown of conventional gender roles, the place girls turn into empowered, males turn into overly emotional, and everybody’s left questioning who’s in cost anymore.”
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Principally, it’s the top of the world as we knew it — the place the strains between who’s purported to be “in cost” and who’s purported to be “submissive” are formally blurred. And honey, we’re residing it.
Let’s face it — girls have made monumental strides during the last decade. From taking full management of their our bodies to dismantling societal expectations of how they need to behave, the fashionable girl is carving out a lane that doesn’t require a person’s approval. Girls are unapologetically proudly owning their sexuality (and rightfully so), making their very own cash, and calling the photographs in relationships. But, amidst this wave of independence, one query lingers: Have girls gotten too unbiased? Or have males simply gotten lazy?
Cue the cringe-worthy second: males appear to be strolling round with the understanding that their place in a girl’s life is as non-obligatory as an “Add to Cart” button on a trend web site. Working example: Apryl Jones.
For these of you who don’t know, Apryl Jones is the mom of Omarion’s youngsters and, at one level, the rumored girlfriend of Tay Diggs. She’s a preferred actuality star who’s no stranger to the social media highlight. Apryl lately went reside on Instagram and referred to as out a person who requested her to go to him — whereas anticipating her to pay for her personal aircraft ticket. Let that sink in. You heard me.
Now, let’s be clear — there’s no disgrace in a girl paying her personal approach. However the truth that this man, in his infinite knowledge, thought this was an inexpensive request in 2024 tells you the whole lot you must learn about how some males assume they’ll skip the courtship stage and dive straight right into a Netflix and Chill situation.
So what occurred? Apryl wasn’t having it. She referred to as out the person for his lack of effort, highlighting the truth that, as a grown girl along with her personal enterprise, the times of males anticipating girls to chase after them, beg for consideration, or pay for their very own seat on the desk are over. And, actually, she’s not the one one saying it.
Let’s discuss courting — sure, that old style idea the place a person really places in some effort earlier than asking a girl to drop her guard and spend money on him emotionally (and possibly financially). Are males even courting anymore? Or have all of us simply gotten too busy swiping left and proper, hopping from one situation-ship to the following?
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From the seems to be of it, many males have forgotten what it means to “court docket” a girl. They’re too busy Netflix-ing and chilling to know the significance of displaying up for a date with one thing past a half-hearted “You up?” textual content at midnight. And, to make issues worse, girls are not sitting round ready for his or her telephone to buzz. Girls are out right here getting their very own baggage and questioning why they need to supply loyalty or exclusivity when there’s little effort on the opposite aspect.
Let’s break it down: Males, the bar is low. We’re speaking “couldn’t journey over it if we tried” low. A real effort, a considerate gesture, and a transparent sense of what you need — that’s what makes a person actually indispensable in 2024.
However no, it appears many males are simply cozy of their complacency. Perhaps they assume girls will all the time “want” them for one thing. Perhaps they’re resting on their laurels as a result of, as soon as upon a time, they had been the gatekeepers to the whole lot — from relationships to… nicely, intercourse. However in 2024, girls are gatekeepers to their very own happiness, success, and sexual company. If you wish to be “the person” in her life, you higher present her what makes you precious past a shared Netflix password.
Let’s get actual: If males aren’t bringing extra than simply their presence to the desk, they’re rapidly turning into out of date. Girls don’t want a person to “save” them anymore, however they do want somebody who can add one thing to their already full lives. The times of transactional relationships based mostly on “I’ll deal with you should you deal with me” are fading quick. The brand new relationship sport requires a person to be progressive, emotionally accessible, and, dare I say it, lively within the pursuit.
As a result of let’s face it, girls — this courting pool is a complete mess. It’s like consuming the poisonous sludge in The Starvation Video games. Everybody takes a sip, and instantly, we’re all in a contest for survival. You get the prize, and, in some way, you’re purported to really feel particular about it. The lads who can’t step up? They’ll simply be swimming in that poisonous pool, hoping somebody notices their charming smile and clean speak.
It’s clear: the courting pool has slightly little bit of toxicity in it. And actually, I believe everybody’s swimming in it at this level. Males, you’re going to should get out of your emotions and put some actual effort into proving why you deserve the title of the prize. Girls are getting their very own baggage and getting comfy doing issues by themselves. So if you wish to be indispensable, you’ve obtained to do extra than simply present up trying cute. It’s 2024, and girls are successful. You both rise to the event, otherwise you’ll be left behind with all the opposite pale “Netflix & Chill” proposals.
However, hey, good luck on the market. Keep protected, girls… and gents.
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